process that led to the birth of
Lukas Johannes Dilling
13 December 2005
From his fathers perspective
all started one romantic evening.... No, I am not going back that
far in the process! Lets see what was happening the days before
your wonderful brith, as looking back it was all quite special,
just as it is having you here with us, a gift from God.
Lukas; a few days old.
was the day before the full moon. We knew that you would come early
Luke, for mamma was earlier with Thomas and although the pregnancy
with you (just as with Thomas) was fine and healthy, still it was
obvious to us that the big day may come earlier than 12 January
2006, as the due date was. Full moons effect the waters, animals
and yes us, thus perhaps this natural force of God’s may have
been the wave you road to jump out early into this great big world!
(although the doctors do not agree.)
Luke! Yes, a little early (Just like your lovely brother Thomas
who was 3.5 weeks earlier and me, your father at 6 weeks early!),
Tuesday 13 December 2005 at 14:25, however everything in order and
the doctors and nurses very helpful and caring. Yet before we get
into that moment, lets look back at the hours leading up to mamma
starting the birth process that led to your delivery.
Anky and Opa Ger came back early from their stay in Spain and have
been helping with getting your room and our house in order for your
expected arrival. Mamma, Thomas and I have done a lot, however without
their help we could have never completed everything on “time!”
(especially with you coming early!) They have been home not even
two weeks come Monday 12 December and although Oma and mamma still
had a bit to do with your clothes, Opa and I were pretty much done
with your room, all ready, painted and decorated (a lot of Winnie
We all were very busy the weeks and days before your
arrival, getting your room ready!
morning I felt a bit down, but as the day progressed, the mood got
better and better, as did business- by the evening I was buzzing
and could not really say why. That night mamma went to the Le-mans
or birth gym to practice for giving birth to you. On the way out
the door, she reminded me that next week was “partner night”
and that I would have to go along and do these exercise and sit
with all the other pregnant woman (yes, I know, sounds like fun!)-
we both laughed, as three and a half years ago I was days away from
attending the “partners night” when Thomas came into
the world 3.5 weeks early, getting me out of going to the class!
So anyway, off she went and your brother Thomas and I had a very
nice night, wrestling and finally falling a sleep.
came home feeling good, but tired. We went to bed and I planned
to get up earlier to get a good jump on the day as I had a lot to
do at work on Tuesday.
morning started with a running start. I was busy with doing email
blasts (marketing) when at around a very busy time of 11:40 in the
morning mamma called and said calmly, “David, it is so far
and I have to head right to the hospital with my mother, please
meet me there in Delft at the hospital.” I did not know if
I should shout, cry or both- but stayed calm and informed my colleagues
that I had to run…
off I went, the mailings were sending and I was sent off to get
to the hospital right away. I parked and met Mamma and we headed
right up to the second floor at the nicely kept Reinier de Graaf
Ziekenhuis (hospital) in Delft. By this time the contractions were
coming quicker and quicker and no longer every 20 minutes, but every
10 or so! Boy Luke, you sure did want to get out into God’s
checked in quickly and they led us to a nice delivery room, where
they placed us. You can see a picture of mamma on the delivery bed
with the time of 12:30. Still not too painful for mamma and she
even made a comment how easy this seemed compared to last time!
did a lot of checks on mamma and you with an echo, to make sure
that an early birth would be safe for you- as if they had to, they
can try to stop or slow birth. Yet everything seemed fine although
it was clear you would be small, you appeared healthy, from what
they could see through mamma’s belly. (Once again, the nurses
and doctors are all so caring and helpful, it was so very nice that
they answered all our questions.)
was doing great when the clock clicked into the one-o’clock
hour. The contractions were coming heavier and more and more- the
nurses were keeping things in order and helped all the way. Then
around two-o’clock the contractions were coming in what they
call a “contractions storm” and you could see it on
the monitors, and this was very painful for mommy. She was screaming,
but kept her cool and did a great job.
14:15 it (your birth) was close. Mamma was pushing and pushing (Good
thing you were not any bigger actually!) and then at 14:25 you came
head first out into the hands of the doctor (Sonia was her name)
and into the world with a small cry (which is a good sign, meaning
you were breathing on your own, etc.).
You were here!
These pictures are literally seconds after your birth!
you were of course small, but not all that small and right away
I know you were okay! They immediately laid you on mamma’s
chest and I made the first of several photos! (This made me realize
that everything must be decent with you, as they did not rush you
out or anything, it was all very relaxed.)
Delft that night, it was to be the so-called, “lichtjesavond”
(Evening of Lights). Actually we were supposed to be with a friend
of ours, Wi-Jo there, but instead you brought even more light into
our lives than any candle, lamp or laser could ever produce for
went with you upstairs on a little crib that I pushed with the doctor
that weighed you (1920 grams) and made sure everything was in place,
to the 5th floor, where the premature section is. Thomas was also
brought here, with me following, although I must say then it was
all a bit scarier then, some three and a half years ago. They did
some further tests and were so happy with your looks and vital signs
that they even gave me a tiny bottle of milk to give you right away
and had no rush to get you on any monitors or what not! This was
after Paul who helped Thomas the last time too when he was here,
picked out a nice stripped blue outfit for you- your first set of
clothes! This made me feel very good as Paul was totally at ease
and no rush or anything like that.
after staying with you for twenty minutes or so, I went downstairs
to get mamma who was almost done getting cleaned up and we came
up together to hold you, as you can see in the pictures.
proud mama and brother! You were doing great Luke!
back with mamma I got a call from a colleuge that we sold a big
project we have been working on for months in England- not to mention
sales this Tuesday, the 13th of December 2005 were excellent (This
entire week actually since you were born!), way above normal for
this year! Still, I had to cut him short of course and say, “well
that is great, but I just had a baby, Lukas Johannes!” Of
course they all gave their well wishes and said what a nice name.
(Luke) Johannes. We thought long and hard over the names and thought
these were fitting and would help bring you into this world with
the knowledge that your names have meaning and should give you faith
(Even though it is fully up to you whom you become and what path
you will follow). Johannes is a fine second name, meaning John in
the Dutch translations of the Bible. Secondly, it is also the name
of your Grandfather (my Dad) in California (John Fred Dilling),
America, not to mention that your Uncle Marc has Johannes in his
name and other family members from mamma as well.
was the inventor of the printing press, all for the goal that Johannes
had in printing the Bible, by the way, which many today forget.
(Thanks to the printing press, we can communicate much faster and
better- and oh yes, daddy is in the printing and publishing business
as well, and always enjoyed reading about the history of Johannes
Gutenberg, which ties in all nicely!)
first name is of course Lukas (Lucas), from Lucanus or for short,
Luke. Luke is one of the Apostles of Jesus, the Son of God and author
of “Luke” and “Acts” some of the most powerfully
written books in the New Testament of the Bible. Luke is seen as
one of the most extensive writers in the New Testament and like
Paul, was a gentile or from non-Jewish heritage.
thank God for everything for without our heavenly Father we could
not have earthly mothers and fathers. It must be your own choice,
your faith, however I personally hope that through this very birth
of yourself, from dust to baby, that you can seek the truth and
do God’s Will.
this process of conception to pregnancy to birth amazes me. I read
a quote today that said, “Hope for miracles, but do not expect
them.” Well getting a baby, as mamma puts it, is “what
God gives a mommy and a daddy when they love each other very much.”
This is a miracle as far as I am concerned and one of the miracles
that happens over and over, every day, all over the world in every
culture. You are a miracle Lukas, as is every other child born.
another lesser miracle is the fact that once again I got out of
going to the le-mans or birth classes on “partners evening!”
(Thanks Luke, I owe you one!)
we are very glad that you are doing so well and fighting so diligently.
You have a strong will and this is a fantastic trait. Not to mention
you are eating well, just like your daddy! Thank you for brining
us these moments. Grow strong Luke and we look forward to raising
you to adulthood!
God bless you.